I remember reading a quote somewhere, it says that if there won’t be any change then there won’t be any butterflies. I guess the process of metamorphosis plays a big part in this saying which makes sense, the transformation does and that’s how my past taught me.

Pain is an understatement of what had happened to me in the past but the difference would be turning that into a lesson that would further enrich me as an individual instead of regressing backwards.

We make decisions at one point in our lives, for ourselves at that, I personally made a decision to live in the moment, which for me was the most difficult since I think I was born to live always looking for plans for tomorrow, but in the end it turned out to be the most rewarding part of the trust I gave to the process of change and so I finally learned to say yes to living one day at a time and enjoy it freely.

Life and love make up majority of the lessons I learned so here’s my take –

The truth behind love is it ain’t and will never be a fairy tale in fact the more intimately you know your other half, the more clearly you see his or her flaws. Not to say that it’s a fault-finding case but indeed true. You discover more things you have never known about the other and that’s just the way it is. When is love not enough? Love ain’t enough when it overcomes your own sensibility, this is why marriages fail, couples grow apart, and the friendships you thought you’ve had begin to fail. Love is tested during trials as diamonds are formed under fire. Love is different and not all about seeing it in rose-colored lenses, it’s seeing the other’s filthy heart without walking away, and that pain and sacrifice they’ve all shown in movies and have written in books are true,and that thing called love makes you jump into it. Bottom line is love is a deliberate step you take and always a choice you make.

It is not what you are that holds you back. It is what you think you are not.

The truth behind life is I still make plans for the future, and who doesn’t, but this time I see the lessons every step along the way and not putting my life “on pause” until what I want happens and no matter how busy life can be find time to do the things that matter, it’ll keep you sane. Trust me. Besides if it’s meant for you then you won’t make an extra effort to get it, it will come running at you if destiny wills it.

Don't let your happiness depend on something you may lose. - C.S. Lewis
Don’t let your happiness depend on something you may lose. – C.S. Lewis

The truth behind living made me realize the following –

Make an effort to understand others, make an effort to unlearn, through this you learn to “learn”. Your personality is not set in stone, you are able to control and take charge of it, just practice conscious awareness or better yet be mindful of who you truly are.

That thing called love and friendship I hope you don’t get confused by it, they’re really worlds apart and have their own respective parts. If you find yourself in the middle of a crossroad, step back and assess where you are and it will never hurt to lay down your pride to clarify if you must. You deserve your own place in this world that’s well-defined and clear.

Make it a point to be aware of your own sensitivity. I used to take things personally and react defensively in the past to others, but previous experiences dictate that you won’t gain anything by reacting to every situation that irks you – choose your battles wisely and choose your words, once spoken it may last.

When you are dead-set on envisioning your goals and fully commit to your vision, and make an effort to go for it, life changes completely. Don’t fear on challenging yourself because it is through them that will make you emerge stronger, more empowered, and a more capable person. There’s a saying to “follow your heart”, I say go for what you feel in your heart but act with your brain.

There may be times when you begin to doubt and question yourself, when these times occur in your life it pays to bear in mind who you were before circumstances led you to doubt yourself and never see it through the eyes of those who failed to appreciate your value. You are worth it – always.

Your thoughts control your feelings which in turn control your actions. Choose the better path, the path that gives you that feeling of peace in your heart that no one else can give – that’s the way to go.