The band Hiroshima carries on an award winning song entitled The Door is Open, I attached the video of it below, one of its lines apparently always catches my attention when I play it which says – “So many times the world just seems to let you down but I know you’re here to turn my life around. So many times you feel the world has passed you by, just give life a chance, give love another try,” which brings me to today’s entry which is all about the love story all of us have had in our own lives, the story of chance and regret.
This speaks of a man named Chance talking to a woman named Regret offering her a possible solution to the sadness and longing she was feeling. Chance opens the door for Regret to enter, welcoming him into the world that should have, could have and would have been hers had not she asked so much of the “whats” and “ifs”. What and If are, so to speak, “harmless” words, but when placed together forms a potent pair, I wrote about this on my previous blog. But opposites really do attract, right?
Since my blog entry is a love story (for a change), I would like to share a little about how Chance and Regret carried on their relationship – yes Regret gave Chance the challenge to prove to her that risks are worth taking and that they realized that relationships remain exciting and significant when both of you work on what you have together, living your individual lives apart but at the same time growing together, experiencing chaos but coming up with a “win-win” solution in the end, and most of all appreciating each other in the simplest way you can, this, for me, made their relationship real and solid. They never threw the responsibility of change to each other, but instead, allowed each other to be free as individuals and most of all respect each other. Growth will definitely follow, and needless to say love. And so both Chance and Regret realized that in the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take, the relationships we were too scared to have and the decisions we waited too long to make.
Going back to the issues raised by Regret to Chance, the following is an excerpt lifted from the Poems for Juliet written by Lise Friedman. It speaks of the scenario of what Regret could have taken for her to be released from the pain of her mind and heart on account of an experience, expression, deed or act in the past with a wish that it could have been different.
What and If are again two words that are non-threatening as it is but put them together side by side and they produce the power to haunt you for the rest of your life
I don’t know how your story ended but if what you felt then was love then it’s never too late.
If it were true love then why wouldn’t it be true now?
You need only the courage to follow your heart
I don’t know what love like yours feels like, love to leave loved ones for, love to cross oceans for…
But I’d like to believe if I ever were to feel, it’s that I will have the courage to seize for it even if you didn’t, carrying with it hope that one day you’ll do.
Life, in general, is always an endless story of taking chances and feelings of regret and that in itself opens doors to possibilities because through them you can basically view a perspective on how your path would look like to get to the goals you set for yourself. At the end of the journey we all aim for contentment from within – contentment with the thought of experiences and opportunities that have been given a chance for regret to just be a familiar term we are aware of and not necessarily an experience we chanced upon.
So there .. Go ahead.. Indulge… Take chances… No regrets. If you want it, go for it. Take a risk. You can never always play it safe or you’ll die wondering.
Here’s the song I was mentioning earlier. Enjoy it and relax, oh and it’s the theme song of Chance and Regret too. Have a great weekend!