Mending Our Inner Brokenness

We’re all broken. We’re all flawed. We’re all vulnerable at a single point in our fragile lives. Brokenness in my personal view serves as an entry into new beginnings, if we allow it to, a path towards wholeness again. We have all had our own share of pain and disappointment in this oh so amazing phenomenon called life. Know that there is a purpose behind all of this, sometimes we never really will ever get it but suffice enough to say that it serves our common good. It may seem blurry, just like the window of a car running through torrential rain but know that the rain will stop and the vision becomes clear again, you’ve just got to appreciate the small steps towards clarity. Being broken is a sign that we’re perfectly human too and comparing it to a machine, we’ll all be fixed in time, but what will it take for the fixing to begin? I’ll tell you along the way. In the process of getting broken and fixed know that after the process you’ll come out of it as a better version of yourself.

Being broken entails the realization of who and what is important in your life, being broken allows you to accept and acknowledge that mistakes make you learn and hone you to a sharper and better version of yourself. Until you are broken, you wouldn’t know what you’re made of, being broken gives you the ability to build yourself all over again but this time around build yourself stronger than ever. Therefore, endpoint is being unbreakable.

Forgiveness and letting go is key to mending our brokenness. I would always recall a quote that would recur in my mind whenever I’m faced with a conflict in life – The first to apologize is the bravest; the first to forgive is the strongest; and the first to move forward is the happiest.

Listen to your inner voice. It pays to have “quiet time” to closely listen to your heart and soul. Do what you know in your heart is right for you. Healing is a process, no need to rush, the lessons will come and happen, you just need to keep your mind and heart open. It is your road, it is your journey – others may walk with you but not for you. In this journey, remember that good days bring you happiness; bad days bring you experience but it is during the worst days that you gain the best lessons which in turn brings you back into the cycle of the good and better days, you can’t stay down forever.

Change is something you need to accept in the process of healing from brokenness. The hardest part of growing in life is letting go of what we are used to doing. Letting go of what worries you, what causes you doubt and fear and just have faith that things will work out – it always does anyway.

Do things your future self will thank you for. The things you do every single day matters more than what you do every once in a while.

Happiness comes when we stop complaining over the troubles we have, in moments like these try to instead be grateful for the troubles we don’t have. We need to just fight through some bad days to appreciate and give way to the best days.

We are all familiar with an old adage pertaining to the challenges encountered in life —  “When it rains, it pours”. Massive storms are inevitable in life but it will always be rewarded with sunny days ahead. Extreme dedication and effort are prerequisites for us to pull through our own brokenness and that’s the essence of the journey of the road less traveled. The journey may not always be easy towards your destination but what matters most are the lessons you acquired to get to it. Lessons are found on what seems to be detours and stopovers.

I learned that it is vital for us to pay attention to each other’s success and failures, needless to say pay attention to ourselves. Paying attention to the fact that just when you think everything is going your way, it sometimes is not and just when you’re ready to give up you will be reminded of why you started trying in the first place. Life has a way of balancing its occurrences. Paying attention entails a lot of listening not only to our own inner voice but to others. There are limits though, but it’s only when we truly listen that we can truly discern when to hold on or let go. Believe that life is just happening the way it should be for you at this present moment. It always moves forward no matter how slow, so never lose heart.

I end with a poem by Berton Braley, which, for me, speaks much about empowering one’s self into standing up and starting all over again leading to mending our own brokenness.

 

Start where you stand and never mind the past

The past will not help you in beginning new

If you have left it all behind at last

Then that is enough, you are done with it

You are through.

This is another chapter in the book

This is another race you have planned

Do not give the vanished days a backward look, instead,

Start where you stand.

 

The world will not care about your old defeats

If you can start anew and win success

The future is your time, and time is fleet

And there will be much work and stress

Forget then buried woes and dead despairs

Here is a brand new trial at hand

The future is for him who does and dares

And starts where he stands.

 

Old failures will not halt, old triumphs aid

Today is the thing, tomorrow will soon be

Get in the fight and face it unafraid

And leave the past to history

What has been, has been; yesterday is dead

And by it you are neither blessed nor banned

Take courage, be brave and drive ahead

Start where you stand.

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