When life knocks you down, it’s one thing to stay down and dwell a while and another thing if you get up and stand and try again. Tough times challenges our outlook in life and really, there’s so much lessons it gives us to the point that it purges our inner being and molds us into better people in the end, but what does it really mean when we say – steps towards recovery? Here are a few suggestions on how, which I hope will help you if and when the need arises –

Give yourself time to grieve or to be sad.

I think this is very important when you’re undergoing a crisis. You need to go and dwell with how you truly feel, acknowledge the fact that you’re feeling what you’re feeling.

We tend to shove off sad feelings and that’s perfectly normal but we need to all realize that we need to undergo the “sad” phase to be able to move on and appreciate the “happy” days back in our lives again. It is during these times when we learn a whole lot about who we truly are and where we want to be. You heard the saying – sometimes you need to get lost in order to be found and that’s the way life teaches and reaches us.

Nothing is permanent. Bad times never last, good times will happen.

Everything can change in a matter of seconds, the sun rises and the sun sets, we sleep and we wake up the next day, it rains then the sun shines – this is the reality of life, so if you find yourself in a rut or again stuck as they say, hitting rock bottom can actually be the push we need to go up.

Be mindful of your thoughts, and bring yourself back to the present but this time with the mindset that things won’t stay the same forever. I’ve always been a believer of better days.

Things may not go back to the way it used to be but know that it’s fine.

I guess that’s the beauty of change, you know that it won’t remain the same and that with it comes along an internal shift of perspective, only if you decide to. Think of it as another chance to revisit your goals and yourself and eventually find out what your true calling is. Don’t fear change, welcome it instead because it’s the only way you can move forward and get unstuck – you get into a storm but be assured of the fact that you’re a whole new person when you step out of it.

A challenge only becomes an obstacle when you bow to it.

Make you a priority.

Ensure you’re taking care of yourself, good care at that. Sleep. Exercise. Eat the food you want. Spend time with people who uplift you, I cannot underestimate the power of support from them. Allow “me” time.

At one point in my life way back in medical school I realized that I was totally burned out and stressed that I couldn’t function and that I had to find ways to renew the energy I once had. Now that I’m in actual clinical practice I understand that, as I move forward, I am in no need of negative stress accompanying me every day, that above all before I care for others I needed to take care of myself first.

Remember that the learnings are valuable at the end of all the experience you’ve gone through.

Though I had been through a lot of painful situations in my life, I don’t think I’ve ever experienced a year as super bad as the year I was diagnosed with cancer but part of everything that happened I tried to re-think my own life and how I was living it. When we extract meaning out of our own experiences, recovery may possibly be faster.

Challenge makes life interesting, however, overcoming them is what makes life meaningful. – Mark Twain

So there you go, nothing in this world is permanent, what you have now will change tomorrow so as I always say just keep on going and driving on the road called life – the journey is good. Life is good.